The "Bad" parent

A word of warning in this blog I am going to talk about all the negative sides to being a mother. Mothers see their children as little people that will be growing into adults and taking charge of their own lives. I want my daughters to be self sufficient, confident, and successful. There are many varying degrees of success but the bottom line is happiness.
People say motherhood is the most rewarding job there is. Well whoever said that should have daughters! (lol). I don't see this rewards. I have to be the one to enforce the rules, things like limited what junk they eat, making them put one toy back before taking out another, making sure they get to the doctor, that the bills are paid, that the car is running and has gas, I need to make sure the clothes are clean the dishes are washed the floors are vacuumed (which doesn't always happen.) I am a finance, house, and supply manager, an income generator, a cook, a maid, a drill Sergeant, a car manager, a teacher, an entrepreneur, a student, an alarm clock, a pep squad, a nurse, a mediator, I am also a taxi, a child advocate, a mentor, a teddy bear, I am the boss both gentle and firm. I am the one that ultimately is responsible to see that my children turn out to respect themselves and each other.
No mother enjoys saying no to her children. I think that every mother would rather always say yes. However, the consequences of eating too many snacks, or staying up as late as you want, or playing in the street far outweigh the cost of making your child unhappy when you say NO.
It is sad because as a mother your children don't say thank you for the money you earn to spend on them, they don't say thanks for paying the car payment instead of buying me that doll so you can get me to this game. Whenever my six year old doesn't want to eat what I've made for her she says "Mom, why can't you just buy something else?" My ten year old doesn't keep up with anything no matter where she gets it or who gives it to her. Kids don't know the value of turning off lights and reducing the amount of water you use. My daughter hates that I limit her minutes on her cell phone.
I wake up sad because I don't have the resources other mothers do. I want my children to always be happy. They hate that I am embarrassed to have other kids over because I hate the mess. I have an awesome friend Amy who helps me out a lot with the kids. She helps to save on electricity and keep up with the laundry and cleaning (and even with help it does not stay that way).

There's a saying that goes "A busy mom has slothful daughters" I happen to believe that. I want my kids to do chores and help around the house. I get crap for that from everywhere "Let them be kids". Kids used to be raised by COMMUNITIES. In this day and age more and more expectations are being put on the parent. You will bring them to school and do everything yourself etc. I am of course in support of an education but I am using that as an example. So many families rely on their children to help with the responsibilities. We are raising a generation of children who have a sense that doing chores is abusive! They feel entitled to everything. I am sorry but children are definitely deserving of love, and affection, and laughter. They are not entitled to leave the house without cleaning their mess! There is no possible way I can do this by myself. I am sad that in this country it is becoming harder and harder to raise children who actually respect their parents and not see that running a house is no different then running a business!

A goal of a business: Make more then you spend. A goal of a home: Make more then you spend and keep it clean organized and functional.

If I wanted to hire a manager to run my business I would hire a mother once her kids had grown. Balancing time, money, supplies, and going to school and trying to run my business (which is slowing down because i have no free time) is a difficult job with very little "Thank yous". I feel like the most under appreciated person in the world.

These negative things in regard to parenting are often hurtful and awful especially for someone as emotionally driven as I am. However, like the cliche. The reward in the end of seeing these beautiful children make it is worth every sacrifice there is. 

In closing, Men, if a women is bitching at you, it means she is overwhelmed and wishes you would do more and the frustration has reached a new level. If you want to diffuse it hug your wife, say sorry, and immediately find something you can do to take anything off her plate:) You might even find yourself realizing that you are the one that will get the bigger benefit. Women just want to be loved, appreciated, and thanked.